Category Archives: Sober Living

The 12 Steps

We admitted we were powerless over our old consciousness -that our lives had become unmanageable.

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understood him.

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Were entirely ready to have God remove all the defects of character.

Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Continued to take personal inventory and when wrong promptly admitted it.

Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out.

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all of our affairs.


The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen.

– Reinhold Niebuhr

Addiction Signs & Symptoms

You use alcohol or drugs to relax, feel better about yourself or fit in.

You forget what you did that night or pass out.

Your family or friends tell you to cut down on your drinking or drug use.

You have gotten into trouble with the law for using drugs and alcohol.

You drive under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

You have gotten fired from a job for alcohol or drug use.

You minimize your drug or alcohol consumption.

You get irritable and defensive if people confront you on your substance abuse.

You have been hospitalized for excessive drug or alcohol use.

You use substances alone or in secret.

Feeling an overwhelming need to use.

Hiding your substance of choice at home, in your car or office.

Using to feel normal.

Irritability and agitation if you can’t use do to work or other commitments.

Becoming annoyed if your using time is interrupted.

Building up a tolerance to your substance so that you have to use more of it to become intoxicated.

Having physical withdrawal symptoms when you can’t use, such as sweating, shaking or nausea.



First Year Recovery Tasks

Staying Clean and Sober no matter what.

Learning about addiction.

Physical detox and stabilization.

Learning to socialize in healthy ways in a group setting.

Breaking the pattern of being alone.

Having healthy role models.

Stress management.

Staying away from risky places, people, and situations.

Being responsible

Learning to ask for help and support.

What Louise Hay says about addictions: Running from the self.  Fear.  Not knowing how to love the self.

Affirmation:  I now discover how wonderful I am.    I choose to love and enjoy myself.

Addictions numb the heart to pain, but they also diminish its capacity to love.  Addictions become a barrier to moving forward toward true emotional intimacy.   By Doreen Virtue.