The holidays can be the most difficult time of the year. They can trigger many deep emotions and painful memories. If you recently lost a loved one you may be filled with grief, anger, sadness, depression and loneliness. These feelings become amplified during the holidays. Places in the world that have months of darkness, like Alaska, and Northern European countries have higher incidences of irritability, fatigue, illness, insomnia, depression, alcoholism and higher suicide rates. Some people get depressed during the wintertime due to Seasonal Affective Disorder. The decrease in daylight hours can affect our brain chemistry. Elderly people and people with cold intolerances are more inclined to stay at home more which can lead to social isolation. We also tend to be less physically active so we don’t feel as energetic. The holiday season is a time for giving. True gifts can’t be bought in a store like love, friendship, intimacy, health, happiness….. Instead of giving material gifts this year, consider giving gifts from the heart. Give the gifts of love and service. Reach out to those who are in need. Comfort those who are depressed and grieving. For in the giving you receive many blessings.
Has the violence increased in frequency over the past year?
Does your partner choke you?
Has the violence increased in severity over the past year and or has a weapon or threat from a weapon ever been used?
Is there a gun in the house?
Have you been forced to have sex with your partner?
Does your partner use drugs?
Does your partner threaten to kill you and/or do you believe that your partner is capable of killing you?
Is your partner drunk every day or almost every day?
Does your partner control most of all that you do?
Have you ever been beaten by your partner while you were pregnant?
Is your partner constantly jealous of you?
Have you or your partner ever tried to commit suicide?
Is your partner violent toward you or your children?
Is your partner violent outside of the home?
Does your partner get in fights often?
Does your partner have a criminal record?
Does your partner isolate you from family & Friends?
How You Can Get Help:
Call 911 if you are in danger and press charges against the abuser.
Local Shelter: 602-263-8900 or 1-800-799-7739
AZ Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 602-279-2900 or 1-800-782-6400
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Temporary Foster-care For Pets: AZ Humane Society Project Safe House: 602-997-7585 ext.134
Self-Acceptance of Divorce: Denial is the first step to work through because of all the negative feeling and emotions associated with divorce.
Rejection/Guilt: The person that was rejected feels more rejection while the other person may feel guilt.
Loneliness: You didn’t realize that so many of your daily living habits revolved around him/her. You may wonder how can I face life alone? It may be hard to sleep alone at first and you may experience insomnia.
Grief: Grief from divorce is similar to experiencing a death of a loved one.
Self-Concept: Self images are built socially. Ending a marriage can be hard on your self-esteem temporarily.
Friends: Friends can be helpful for support. Friends may change and this is a time to develop new friendships.
Feeling Loveable: You may think “I have failed in this marriage, therefore, I am unlovable. This is not true. You are always loveable no matter what.
Disentanglement: A time to move on and create a new life for yourself.
Anger: You may be consumed with anger. It is helpful to find healthy ways to express your anger. Counseling can be helpful.
Trust: It may feel safer to be reclusive since you don’t want to get burned again.
Aliveness: You eventually begin to feel alive again after feeling numb for so long. You find that now you can trust your feelings and act on them in a positive way.
Singleness: It feels good to have your own living habits without having to conform to another’s style of living. You are starting to feel good about being single.
Freedom: You find the freedom to be yourself. You can make a choice between remaining single or start dating again.
We are spiritual beings having a material experience.
The journey is as important as the destination.
The best way to get what you want is to be what you are.
Let it be easy, struggle in not required.
To stimulate creativity, release, relax and reflect.
Learning and success occur naturally, in a state of joy.
Follow your spirit without hesitation.
Tell the truth quicker.
Do what you are here to do.
Live deep, instead of fast.
Never underestimate the importance of a kind act.
The answer is always at a higher level than the problem.
What you thought was wrong with you maybe right with you.
Every minus is half of a plus waiting for a stroke of vertical awareness.
The attitude of gratitude brings altitude.
Fascination is fertilizer, whatever you pay attention to grows.
Appreciation accelerates manifestation.
Asking for what you want increases your chances of getting it.
You are lovable not for what you do, you are lovable for what you are.
Don’t limit life to your beliefs, expand your beliefs to include all that life has to offer.
You’ll see it when you believe it.
Idols always fall on those who worship them.
Don’t work for a living, create a life.
To get something new, do something new.
Taking care of yourself is the greatest service your can offer to others.
Your life is a reflection of what you believe you are worth.
To receive more upgrade your sense of what you deserve.
Your history is not your destiny
You had it all the time.
Source by Alan Cohen, You Had It All The Time
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a disorder of certain mechanisms in the central nervous system. Auditory processing problems are common in people with ADHD. Medications like Ritalin and Adreral may have a temporary effect on behavior but it does not address the underlying problem of auditory processing impairment. When someone with ADHD has too much auditory input they need a break from this type of stimulation. This overload results in distractibility, short attention span, impulsivity, poor listening skills and hyperactive behaviors. Once in overload mode the person will need recovery time that can range from 30 seconds to one minute before new information can be taken in. Some people with ADHD may need 5 to 10 minutes to recover. When a person has too much auditory imput they may appear to be distracted, off task, spaced out, daydreaming, tuning out or not listening. Some children can can become very anxious, frustrated, angry, or even have explosive range and a violent reactions. Auditory processing problems can worsen due to nutrient mineral imbalances and toxic metals in the body.
Studies have shown a significant decline of ADHD with age. Adults with ADHD are at a higher risk for substance abuse, alcoholism, depression, anti-social behavior and financial problems. Infidelity can be a problem since the person becomes bored easily with things, including partners. A child with ADHD can have learning and behavioral problems. Many ADHD children are average to above average intelligence and are highly creative. Factors that have been linked with ADHD during pregnancy include: anxiety, allergies, smoking, hyperinsulinemia, oxygen deprivation, environmental stress, pollutants, artificial food additives, injury, infection, lead poisoning, and pre-natal trauma. People with ADHD react to preservatives, food dyes and salicylates. These can cause chemical imbalances in the brain. A low-protein diet can be a contributing factor for ADHD. Food additives play a major role in hyperactivity.
Signs & Symptoms of ADHD:
Inability to pay attention
Difficulty with details and makes careless mistakes.
Trouble staying focused.
Does not seem to listen when spoken to.
Does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish tasks.
Has difficulty organizing tasks and activities.
Avoids and dislikes tasks requiring sustained mental effort.
Loses things necessary to do tasks and activities.
Is easily distracted
Symptoms of Hyperactivity and Impulsiveness include:
Fidgets with hands and feet.
They leave their chair at times when they need to remain seated.
Feels restless, runs and climbs excessively.
Is “on the go” or acts as if driven.
Blurts out answers before the questions have been completed.
Has difficulty waiting his/her turn.
Interrupts conversations or intrude on others’ activities.
Inability to start and finish projects.
Loses temper quickly.
Difficulty following rules.
Can be clumsy.
Difficulty in accepting change.
The best way to treat ADHD is to get a hair analysis and consult a nutritionist. Studies have found that omega 3 fatty acids, eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA), docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) and evening primrose oil can help. A high protein diet with beans and whole grains is beneficial. Limit dairy products. Calcium, magnesium and vitamin D3 are key.
Eliminate from your diet: All refined sugars, artificial sweeteners, MSG, Food Dyes, artificial flavoring, colored cheeses, yeast, preservatives, High fructose corn syrup, processed and manufactured foods. Avoid foods that contain salicylates like almonds, apples, apricots, all berries, cherries, cucumbers, currant, oranges, peaches, peppers, plums, prunes, and tomatoes, sodium benzoate increases hyperactivity. Avoid apple cider vinegar, bacon butter, candy, catsup, chocolate, colored cheeses, chili sauce corn, ham hot dogs lunch meats, margarine, meat loaf, milk mustard, pork, salami, salt, sausage, soy sauce, tea and wheat.
Avoid these over the counter products: antacid tablets, cough drops, perfume, throat lozenges, or commercial toothpaste. Use natural toothpaste instead. Avoid soda and phosphate additives. High levels of phosphorus, low calcium and low magnesium levels can indicate a potential for hyperactivity and seizures. Meat and fat are high in phosphorus.
Things you can do for ADHD:
Avoid auditory overload
Reduce background noise
Speak slowly to the person with ADHD
Stop talking if an ADHD child is out of control due to audio input overload.
Stay calm around an a child with ADHD
Do less talking around them
Give them a quiet space
Give only 1 direction at a time
Provide visual materials
Eat healthy Non-GMO, organic foods.
Limit television and video games.
Avoid loud music.
Write down things.
Encourage physical activity
Encourage Creativity, Art, music, dancing, singing…..
Eating a diet high in protein
A homeopathic remedy called gelsemium can help relieve anxiety, anger and temper tantrums.
Ritalin and Aderal drugs are in the same class of drugs as cocaine. These stimulant meds deplete nutrients and weakens the immune system. These drugs deplete zinc and magnesium which are key minerals for our body. Toxicity from lead, cadmium, aluminum, mercury, and cooper effect brain functioning.
For more information go to www.ritalindeath.com
Source: Prescription for Nutritional Healing by Phyllis A. Balch and Richard Malter, PH.D.
- Be kind.
- Be receptive and open.
- Be joyful. Celebrate others achievements and accomplishments.
- Be thoughtful of others.
- Be respectful of other people, situations, time and things.
- Be forgiving of people, situations and yourself.
- Be grateful and content with what you have, it is always enough.
- Be responsible for your thoughts, emotions, body and actions.
- Be funny, laugh a lot – even at yourself.
- Be positive, hopeful and learn to assume the best.
- Be generous with everything especially your time, energy, and money.)
- Be curious, creative and actively filled with wonder.)
- Be an active listener and hear what is not being said as much as what is not.
- Be open to change and new perspectives.
- Be a life long learner. Never stop growing and humbly expanding your knowledge.
Source by Silvia Mordini
Ways to Generate some STEAM into your life:
Step into action
Tweak what’s not working
Execute and experiment
Measure your results each step along the way
Step 1: Check your inner state
Step 2: Give yourself time-out
Step 3: Listen to you intuition
Step 4: Prepare for the game
Step 5: Get clear about what you want
Step 6: Surround yourself with extreme support
Step 7: Gather with others in purposeful community
Source: Written by Wendy Capland, www.WendyCapland.com, Sedona Journal of Emergence, February issue 2014
Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness: For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Source: The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran
Let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of heaven dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s safe keeping. For only the hand of life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow. Source: The Prophet By Kahlil Gibran
I desire union in ways comfortable and appropriate. I open to the dance with another knowing that it will take me to all the places I fear. Some places I love and many places in need of healing. I listen with the ears of my heart and communicate from a place of self-knowing. I consciously give myself away and I know how to take myself back. I see myself reflected so perfectly in the other that I begin my most important journey: to seek out and claim more of who I am.
Being in a relationship lets you look at parts of yourself you don’t usually see. Relationships are the mirror in which you can see who you really are. Wholeness is nourished when you see who you really are, accept what you see and strive to heal what needs to be healed. Relationships can press all your buttons, brings up all your issues and insecurities. If you are both willing to do the work, accept what is yours and take responsibility, this could be a gold mine. Relationships are the fast track to evolving consciousness and personal power. It is joyful, painful, frustrating, exhilarating, annihilating, and completely worth it.
Source: The Goddess Oracle by Amy Sophia Marashinsky
In a relationship there is a delicate act of balancing respect and understanding between individuals, whether in regard to chores that must be done or other duties. Even in a balanced relationship, incidents arise that will challenge the equation of love and power. The longer an imbalance continues, the greater is the challenge in regaining respect and equilibrium. Move toward and correcting inequities and misunderstandings as quickly as possible to avoid unnecessary hurt feeling or reaching the point of no return. Source: Sacred Geometry Oracle by Francene Hart
When love beckons to you, follow.
Though the way is hard and steep.
And when loves wings enfold you, yield.
Though the voice of love may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste to the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall it crucify you.
Even it is for your growth it is also for your pruning.
Even as love ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall love descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn love gathers you.
Love thrashes you to make you naked.
It sifts you to free you from your husks.
It grinds you to whiteness.
Love kneads you until you are pliant;
And then love assigns you to the sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Written by Kahlil Gibran, Author of The Prophet