Category Archives: Sober Living

Sobriety In The Social Environment

I have the right to say No to a drink or drug & respect myself for doing so.   Then, family and friends may also respect me.

I can have fun and pleasure without using.

I can socialize and have sober conversations in a relaxed manner.

Being sober is one way to help me solve my problems with others.

I cultivate friends who have interests other than using.

I avoid situations where people are using excessively such as bars, taverns and liquor stores.

If I attend a party where alcohol or drugs are used, I will have water, soda, coffee, tea or say no thanks I don’t use or I don’t drink.

If I am in a situations where using is occurring and I have an urge to use,  I have a choice to leave that situation.

I can contact a person by phone who understands my problem and can discuss it with me.

I can contact my A.A. or N.A. sponsor or a sober support friend before I use.   My support can talk me though the urge until the urge subsides.

Talking with someone about my urge to use, with the focus on the painful consequences, beyond the desire relief or euphoria, can help lift the urge.

Sober Feelings & Emotions

I am worthy of sobriety.

Sobriety gives me a way to emotional freedom.

I have the right to feel all of my emotions, covering the range from loneliness and boredom to anger and resentment, to happiness and elation; and not drink or drug over any of them.

I give up my right to justify a relapse because of any emotional state or any emotional reaction.

I have the right to reward myself with sobriety as my reward for my success and achievements.

Emotionally, I grieve the loss of the euphoria; I surrender to the pain that chemical use has already caused me and could cause me again.

I practice H.A.L.T:  Don’t get too hungry, angry, lonely or tired.  I practice balanced living.

Sobriety Questions

Can you socialize without the risk of relapsing?

How do you manage your stress and anxiety?

What are your risky people, places and situations that could trigger your relapse?

Can you ask for help easily?

Name some old behaviors that no longer serve you?

Can you avoid the need to create drama?

Can you tell the truth about your addiction?

Sobriety In Your Thinking

Decide each morning that today I will not use.

Remind yourself that I don’t use.

Every day I recharge my sobriety commitment

I only tackle one day of sobriety at a time.

I have the right not to think about using.

I stay sober because being sober is in my best interest.

I visualize myself being chemical free.

I remember that even using one time is too many.

If I do get an urge to use,  I think of the consequences and pain that will follow.

I remember, each day, the pain I used to be in when I was actively using, and feel grateful I am not feeling pain today.

I remind myself of the agonies I suffered when using and the many blessings of sobriety.

I remember that denial thinking can cause me to relapse, nothing else.

I keep an awareness of my denial thinking so this does not trigger a relapse.

Remember the times when you don’t want to use are the times in which you are building up the strength not to use.

Develop and rehearse a daily plan of thinking and acting by which you will live that day without using, regardless of what may upset you or how hard the urge to use my hit you.

There must be no reservation of any kind nor any lurking notion that someday I will be immune to my substance of choice.



Sober Behaviors

Sobriety is my top priority today.

I don’t take a drink or drug today.

I have a choice to stay sober.

I can stay sober under all circumstances today.

No matter how good or bad my life becomes, using is not an option.

There is no problem in life, that using will solve.

Just because I have an urge to use, does not mean I have to satisfy it.  The urge will pass.

Just because using may appear to be desirable, does not mean I have to desire it.   Desire will pass.

The urge to use can become overwhelming, but the urge itself, cannot hurt me.

Using can be devastating to me.

As a non-user,  I take the responsible choice and remain sober.

Look for the positives about being sober.


Third Year Recovery Tasks

The depth of joy and misery can be profound.

The need to go back and redo some earlier recovery tasks.

Learning to avoid the creation of drama in your life.

Your outer world is beginning to reflect the inner world.

Connections are made to a wider circle of people both in and out of recovery.

There is an increase in honesty.

Second Year Recovery Tasks

Identify old behaviors that don’t feel right anymore.

Emotional Detox.

Changes in verbal attitude, feeling and behavior.

An increase in the quality of physical health.

An increase in the ability to tolerate feelings.

Beginning to make distinctions between and among feeling states.

An increase in commitment to working on recovery.